Who do you think you are? (Therapy pt.1)

I guess the real question would be, who do I let you BELIEVE you are? Ladies, the timeless conversation about love and commitment does NOT end here!! Oh no! Truth be told, we will evaluate BOTH sides from ONE side.
Ladies, men will only go as far as you let them, like a dog who enables an invisible fence. They don't see the line they are not suppose to cross, but they know its there. Yet, since they see no consequence in crossing it, they go for it. They get too close to unwanted territory and ZAP!.. Oh boy what was THAT?!! They run back with their tail between their legs, apologizing for not listening, looking for a treat and a scratch behind the ears. Sounds like a woman scorn ranting? Well, ya mufukin' right I am!!
How many of us, have believed through the eyes of love, that we saw a different man that everyone else?? That we know what really lies under all that others see?.. and end up regretting the very sacrifice that made you love that man so deep?? That was me...
Well, if you are SOOO blinded, that you cant comprehend love and realistic rationality, then here it is for you... sorry, but if you fall into any of these categories, ya MIGHT wanna re-evaluate your so called relationship....

Lets start from the top... Mr. "I love you, but I'm not ready for a relationship."

Ladies, I'm sorry, this is the warmest "just came out of the ass and hasn't even touched the grass yet" bullshit.
I believe that some men, may not be ready for a relationship, this is true, BUT, if you ask your 'friend' why? and he gives you THIS excuse?? It pretty much means that, he likes you, yeah he likes you enough to hang out with you, spend your money and tell you he loves you while you make passionate love, but YOU ARE NOT THE ONE!!!
You see ladies, NO ONE, is ready for love. Love MAKES you ready. When love wraps its lasso around your heart where it feels like you cant breathe without exhaling him, eat without spelling his name in your soup, sleep without him by your side,
bathe without him washing your back, that's how you know you are in love. When happiness eludes you because of him. You might not have been ready for a relationship, but LOVE made you sit your ass down and rethink your evaluation. When you are ready, YOU ARE READY.. you cant force yourself to be ready. Love enables you, no matter what situation or circumstance you might be in. Feeling that someone is part of your being, lives in your skin, that's love. Anything else is lust with a strong side of friendship. Sorry ladies, its just the way it is... ask any man. When they love someone, NO MATTER WHAT, they will be with that woman... that's how love is. It does not rationalize, or make appointments, it just is, and you cant help but to follow it.
In relation to THIS type of friendship with the man that refuses to commit... you probably have made yourself available to his every whim. Why? Because you want to be that one chick that he can depend on in any situation.. why?? because YOU THINK it sets you different that the rest.. truth be told...it does.. as far as the "maybe when I get older ill settle with this chick" kinda way. BUT when it comes to "Dam that bitch is looking good in those skin tight jeans and I wonder what her insides feel like" You are MEANINGLESS.
Ladies, you could be at home with a knotting pain in you stomach, (we call it woman's instinct.) something telling you something is not right with your one and only. You call him on a Saturday morning at 230 AM, and no answer. One of 2 things could be going on. 1. He could REALLY be sleeping (which will be the excuse one way or the other) or he was too busy figuring out just how Ms. tight jeans insides feel like. How will you ever know?? You know how?? because YOU are not his lady..and YOU are not with HIM at 230 in the morning on a Saturday night. You are probably wondering, why doesn't he ever want to be with me, as much as I want to be with him?? Why, because there is entirely TOO MUCH PUSSY in the world for him to spend each and every Saturday night with you. Even though, you know, you might he the most frequent, you are NOT the best, if you where... you probably would have stopped reading this blog in the first paragraph.
You probably wont hear anything from him for about 2 or 3 days after that night. What is he doing? Hoping that no crazy craters or funny burning sensations come out of his penis. You know why ladies? Because he was entirely TOO DRUNK to strap up. Yeah he mighta strapped up that NIGHT, but the next morning? When he woke up, and saw that strange booty rubbing against him, he was too in lust to think about strapping. Yes ladies, ya might wanna get tested.
To end part 1 with a bang I would just like to say, do NOT test your strength in this relationship, because it will bite you in the ass, and you will be left in the dust. See men like this will never apologize for their actions. Will never feel as though they hold any responsibility for your hurt and agony. I heard someone say that "If you love someone, you will save them from themselves" If your friend doesn't love you enough to leave you alone if he knows you are getting too deep into something he is not ready for, then you will continue to be his jackass. To give credit to the man, if is only OUR faults for letting things like this carry on for too long. YOU KNOW< when a man doesn't care for you like you would want him too. The question is.. Where are your morals? your confidence? Your strength as a woman? Do you think so little of yourself that you would allow this emotional abuse to yourself?? All to keep someone in your life that obviously does not care if you are a part of his life or not? Would you sacrifice things that you would regret in the future for a man that could never really appreciate the value of your sacrifice.... and.. what kind of man would make you sacrifice???? I'm saying, just think about it...don't allow yourself to go too far into something that can cause you years of damage and thousands in therapy.. and to the men.... if you find someone dumb enough to abuse, hopefully you wont allow it, but if she lets ya... more power to ya.... and that's my rant for part 1.